Life Stages And Transitions
Why Success Feels Empty at 42
At some point in the middle years, a significant number of men achieve something they wanted and discover, with considerable inconvenience, that it doesn't feel the way they expected.
Life Stages And Transitions
Nobody warns you that your 40s and 50s come with an unexpected amount of existential admin. This section covers the psychological landscape of midlife and later life — identity, purpose, ageing and the transitions that tend to arrive whether you're ready or not. Honest, informed and written for men who'd rather face these things with their eyes open.
Life Stages And Transitions
Divorce After 40: How It Affects Men
Divorce after 40 is, for most of the men who go through it, one of the most significant psychological events of their adult lives. It produces loss, grief, disruption to identity and risk to physical and mental health. It is also survivable and manageable.
Life Stages And Transitions
When the Children Leave: The Empty Nest and What It Stirs Up
The empty nest is one of the most significant transitions in family life and one of the least prepared for. Most parents spend eighteen years getting their children ready to leave. Almost none of them spend equivalent time getting themselves ready for what happens when they do.
Life Stages And Transitions
Staying Relevant
Relevance is not something that happens to you. It is something you maintain — or don't — through a series of choices that most men don't realise they're making until the moment they notice they've stopped being made.
Life Stages And Transitions
Becoming a Dad When You Should Know Better
Having a child in your 40s or 50s is increasingly common, frequently unplanned, and almost entirely unlike the experience of becoming a father at 25 — in ways that are sometimes better, sometimes harder, and occasionally both simultaneously.
Life Stages And Transitions
The Shorts Question: Why Middle-Aged Men Have Stopped Caring What You Think
After the age of 12, most British men have abandoned their shorts. Along the way, a significant number choose to revisit them. This is not a fashion story. It is, however, a psychological one.
Life Stages And Transitions
In Defence of the Garden Shed
The shed has been mischaracterised for decades as a place men go to avoid their responsibilities. The evidence suggests it is, in fact, a place men go to remain capable of meeting them.
Life Stages And Transitions
What Men Think About Death
Death is the one appointment nobody misses, yet rarely gets discussed. Men, in particular, have developed an impressive range of techniques for not thinking about it — most of which turn out to be thinking about it differently rather than not thinking about it at all.
Life Stages And Transitions
Why Men Grieve Differently — and How It Shows
Grief is one of the few experiences that arrives without asking permission, ignores all previous arrangements, and refuses to behave in the way you've been told it should. Men, in particular, tend to find this inconvenient.
Life Stages And Transitions
Midlife Reappraisal: What's Really Happening at 45
It's not a crisis. It's not a cliché. It's a perfectly normal psychological process that most men are completely unprepared for — which is why it tends to arrive like a lorry through the living room wall.
Life Stages And Transitions
Getting Older: What's Actually Happening to Your Mind
Ageing is inevitable. A lot of what men believe about what it does to their minds, however, turns out to be either wrong or considerably more complicated than they've been led to expect.